Self Esteem is your opinion about yourself and your abilities. It is the way you see yourself in terms of look, physical qualities and your abilities. It can be high, low or somewhere in between.
Most teenagers and young adults suffer from a very Low Self esteem.
They see themselves as not qualified based on looks, material things or abilities. Everyone in one way or the other has been told several hurtful things.
"You can't be a winner because there are other people who are better than you in it. "
"Quit. This contest is not for people like you. "
"How do you expect a dummy like you to get an A in this course?"
"You are flat(no ass/no boobs),how do you think you can be attractive to people?"
"You don't have any curve or shape. You look so straight in this gown you are putting on. "
"You are shapeless. You look like an amoeba. "
"You are too ugly. Don't you see he/she is more beautiful than you? "
"Ugly people like you don't have a chance in a beauty contest. "
"Well....His/Her friend is a fine guy/girl.Why did you choose him/her instead of this fine guy/girl?"
The list goes on and on because there are so many things people say about others. You can't wear a particular cloth because you think people will laugh at you and say it doesn't look good on you.
"If you don't like something about yourself, you either change it or embrace it. "
Being fat or thin is not a crime. If you don't like your body size, you have the right to change it to suit your taste or better still accept it.
Beauty they say is in the eyes of the beholder. The most beautiful person may be termed ugly to another person and vice versa. Since everyone was created in the likeness of God,that means God is not ugly so none of us are.
Everyone irrespective of their face, skin or colour is your a physical interpretation of what God look like. So how dare you call someone ugly when you know God isn't?
Everyone is beautiful in his/her own Way. Nobody is perfect. Even the people we term perfect still have their own flaws. Who told you celebrities we see that has the perfect body and skin and takes the perfect pictures are all perfect? They all have their flaws which they are hiding.
Being intelligent or dull is left to the individual. You may not be intelligient in book work but you may excel in other areas such as sports, business etc. Intelligence is depends on the individual. Though some people may be born intelligent or may have inherited it does not mean that you that wasn't born intelligent can not be intelligent.
If you think you are not intelligent enough, continue reading and studying. You will get there.
Well, the issue of self esteem can not be finished in a whole day. It is a gradual process.
You may not be the most beautiful person.
You may be considered ugly by other people.
You may not be selected in terms of beauty but know that you have got potentials that can rule the whole world.
Know that you are worth everything.
Never compare yourself to other people.
Eliminate negative self talks.
Love yourself.
Make time to clarify your values.
Replace negative thinking with positive thinking.
Surround yourself with a supportive squad.
Remember that you don't need others approval to be who you want to be.
Always strive to be the beat version of yourself.
Remember that no one is perfect.
Focus on what you can change about yourself and accept things that are out of your control.
What you see in the mirror is not always the truth and sometimes you see what the mirror wants and not what the eyes wants.
Have confidence in yourself.
You are beautiful just the way you are.
Wear that makeup if you want to, dress sexy if you want to, enter that contest if you want to, approach that girl/guy if you want to, do everything positive if you want to. Nobody has the right to look down on you.
You were created for something great.
You can do it.
You can win.
If you fail, try again till you make it.
If you fall, get up till you win the race.
You are a winner.
Remember, God loves you so dearly. Go to him, he will give you rest.
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