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Fixing your relationship when it's falling apart!

Introduction

There are no warning signs or hints as to why a relationship is failing; rather, it is a gradual realization that something isn't quite right and that something needs to be fixed.

You're not sure where to turn for assistance, but you know you still care about each other and want your relationship to work. I've included some suggestions based on my personal love life experience, to help you get back on that loving path in your love life.

Hopefully, one or two useful suggestions can help you, but I hope that no matter how many tips you try, at least one of them will work and restore your relationship with your partner.

HONESTY

BE HONEST

You've gotten into the habit of not being truthful. When he asks how you're feeling, you tell him you're fine, but deep down you're frustrated and angry. You don't want to tell him because you don't want to start a fight.

If your relationship is ending, now is not the time to be a wuss. You must be completely honest with him and express your feelings. Explain to him why you are frustrated and angry. All of your anger and frustration can be resolved with a little communication.

Hopefully, one or two helpful tips will help you, but I hope that no matter how many tips you try, at least one of them will work and restore the relationship that you were both once happy with.

talking

Talking

You've stopped speaking in the same way you used to. You used to discuss anything and everything, and there was never a dull moment. Now you sit in silence, hoping that your partner will strike up a conversation, which he is unlikely to do because he shares your feelings. Return to your childhood and begin talking about trivial matters.

For example, inquire about his day. Tell him about your activities throughout the day. Perhaps you met someone while out shopping in town, and you can tell him about your family and how they are doing. It doesn't really matter what you talk about because as long as you communicate with each other, you will feel connected. You must cultivate this bond in order for it to become a natural part of your life as it once was.

Do you have haters?

Handle Them with Grace and Confidence.....

Do you have haters? Handle Them with Grace and Confidence

By: Frankie Martinez, June, 09, 2022

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Dealing with conflict in a gracious and confident manner can be difficult if you have a short temper. The way you treat others has an impact on your friendships, romantic relationships, professional contacts, and even job security.

Accept change if you want to deal with conflict gracefully.
Here are some simple pointers to remember the next time you are confronted:

1. Take a step outside of your own shoes. Analyze the situation objectively so that you can see both sides of the story. What is the other person upset about? What could you have possibly done to offend them or make them feel wronged or attacked? Is there any truth to their feelings?

Remember that most people rarely lash out without justification. Determine why you are being approached so quickly so that you can figure out how to diffuse the situation.

2. Be compassionate. Sometimes all someone needs to calm down is to know that they are understood. Say something that makes them feel as if they have the right to feel the way they do without completely dismissing yourself.

Say something that demonstrates that you are interested in what they have to say. Prior to launching into your side of the story, try to understand their point of view. Find a point of agreement and work from there to arrive at a solution that you both agree on.

Allow them to express their emotions. Inquire as to why they are feeling this way and truly listen without judging. If the other person accuses you of something you clearly did not do, it may be tempting to lash out. However, wait until they've finished speaking before offering your defense.

3. Keep your fingers to yourself. When dealing with conflict, pointing the finger at the other person is the coward's way out. But keep in mind that it takes two to tango.

Take the high road by avoiding the childish blame game and focusing on finding a solution rather than harboring resentment about the problem.

4. Maintain your composure. Acting angrily is the simplest way to exaggerate a situation. Maintain a low and controlled tone of voice. Maintain your arms at your sides. Rather than assigning blame, approach the problem through the eyes of a teammate.

Dealing with conflict gracefully entails being proud of how you respond. If you think you'll be embarrassed by your reaction later, try a different, calmer approach to communication.

5. Everyone comes out on top. Seeking an amicable outcome for everyone involved is the most gracious thing you can do to resolve conflict. Take a step back and look at the situation with fresh eyes to determine what all parties involved are after.

Dealing with conflict graciously requires practice, but the effort is well worth it. With a gracious demeanor, compassion for others, and a focus on the solution, you can diffuse conflict and make everyone involved feel like a winner.

Criticism

5 signs that those who mock you are mentally ill

You've received harsh criticism? or belittled by someone?
The good news is that this individual may be mentally unstable!

To begin with, there is a significant difference between constructive criticism from family members or close friends who care about you and want to see you succeed in life and criticism that reflects insecurities and deep psychological issues.

When you are mocked, before you start looking for flaws in yourself, you should first examine the person who mocked you to determine whether he is the one who truly needs help or not.

5 signs that those who mock and humiliate you are mentally ill

1) They project their own flaws: One of the best ways for people who are afraid to admit the existence of their flaws to reaffirm their self-deception is to accuse others of having those flaws. I am You know that person who has a flaw but constantly mocks you for having it?

2) Too insecure to see you succeed: Not everyone is at ease in his own skin. Some people are so insecure that they can't stand seeing other people do things correctly. By mocking and humiliating those people, the insecure person alleviates some of his emotional turmoil. Cowards do not compliment others because they are afraid of being left behind if others do what they believe they cannot do. 

Do youstill believe you should be embarrassed when you are mocked?

Alburquerque New Mexico

Alburquerque New Mexico

Alburquerque's La Villa The city was named after the Viceroy of New Spain, the 10th Duke of Alburquerque, and served as a stop on El Camino Real, which connected Mexico City to the northernmost territories of New Spain. The city's population was 564,559 according to the 2020 census, making it the 32nd-most populous city in the United States and the fourth-largest in the Southwest. It is the principal city of the Albuquerque metropolitan area, which had 916,528 residents in July 2020, and it is part of the Albuquerque–Santa Fe–Las Vegas combined statistical area, which had 1,162,523 residents in January 2020.
The city is located in the Albuquerque Basin and is bounded to the east by the Sandia Mountains and to the west by the West Mesa, with the Rio Grande and the bosque flowing from north to south. The city is a technology and media hub, with historic landmarks, the University of New Mexico, the Albuquerque International Balloon Fiesta, and a diverse restaurant scene that includes New Mexican cuisine.

Petroglyphs carved into basalt in the city's western outskirts attest to an early Native American presence in the area, and are now preserved in the Petroglyph National Monument.

Before European settlers arrived in what is now Albuquerque, the Tanoan and Keresan peoples had lived along the Rio Grande for centuries. There were approximately 20 Tiwa pueblos along a 60-mile (97-kilometer) stretch of river from present-day Algodones to the Rio Puerco confluence south of Belen by the 1500s. Twelve or thirteen of these were densely clustered near present-day Bernalillo, with the remainder spread out to the south.

Two Tiwa pueblos, Sandia Pueblo, which was founded in the 14th century, and Isleta Pueblo, which was chosen as the site of the San Agustn de la Isleta Mission, a Catholic mission, have been continuously inhabited for many centuries.

The Navajo, Apache, and Comanche peoples were also likely to have established camps in the Albuquerque area, as evidence of trade and cultural exchange between Native American groups dates back centuries before European arrival.

Albuquerque was founded in 1706 as La Villa de Alburquerque by Francisco Cuervo y Valdés in the provincial kingdom of Santa Fe de Nuevo México and named after Viceroy Francisco Fernández de la Cueva, 10th Duke of Alburquerque, a Spanish town. Albuquerque was a farming and shepherding community, as well as a strategically located trading and military outpost along the Camino Real, for the other Tiquex and Hispano towns in the area, including Barelas, Corrales, Isleta Pueblo, Los Ranchos, and Sandia Pueblo.

Mexico also had a military presence there after 1821. Alburquerque was constructed in the traditional Spanish villa style, with a central plaza surrounded by government buildings, homes, and a church. This central plaza area has been preserved and is now open to the public as a cultural and commercial hub. It's known as "Old Town Albuquerque" or simply "Old Town." Historically, it was referred to as "La Placita" (Little Plaza in Spanish). San Felipe de Neri Church is located on the north side of Old Town Plaza. It is one of the city's oldest surviving structures, having been built in 1793.

From 1846 to 1867, after the New Mexico Territory was incorporated into the United States, Albuquerque was home to a federal garrison and quartermaster depot known as the Post of Albuquerque. Albert D. Richardson described Albuquerque as "one of the richest and pleasantest towns, with a Spanish cathedral and other buildings more than two hundred years old" in Beyond the Mississippi (1867), while traveling to California by coach in late October 1859.

During the Civil War, Confederate troops led by General Henry Hopkins Sibley occupied Albuquerque for a month in February 1862 before moving on to northern New Mexico. During his retreat from Union troops into Texas, he made a stand at Albuquerque on April 8, 1862, and fought the Battle of Albuquerque against a Union detachment led by Colonel Edward R. S. Canby. This daylong engagement at long range resulted in few casualties as Albuquerque residents assisted the Republican Union in ridding the city of the occupying Confederate troops.

When the Atchison, Topeka, and Santa Fe Railroad arrived in 1880, it bypassed the Plaza, locating the passenger depot and railyards about 2 miles (3 km) east in what was quickly dubbed New Albuquerque or New Town. The railway company built a hospital for its employees, which later became a juvenile psychiatric facility and is now a hotel. Many Anglo merchants, mountain men, and settlers gradually migrated to Albuquerque, establishing a major commercial and mercantile center that is now known as Downtown Albuquerque. On July 4, 1882, Park Van Tassel became the first person to fly a balloon in Albuquerque, landing in Old Town. [20] This was also the first flight in the territory of New Mexico. Milt Yarberry, a gunman, was appointed the town's first marshal that year due to an increase in violent crime. In 1885, New Albuquerque was incorporated as a town. Its first mayor was Henry N. Jaffa. In 1891, it was incorporated as a city. Old Town remained distinct until the 1920s, when it was absorbed into Albuquerque. Old Albuquerque High School was founded in 1879 as the city's first public high school. Congregation Albert, a Reform synagogue founded in 1897, is the city's oldest surviving Jewish organization.

Albuquerque had a population of 8,000 people and all modern conveniences by 1900, including an electric street railway connecting Old Town, New Town, and the newly established University of New Mexico campus on the East Mesa. The famous Alvarado Hotel was built next to the new passenger depot in 1902 and remained a symbol of the city until it was demolished in 1970 to make way for a parking lot. The Alvarado Transportation Center, which resembled the old landmark, was built on the site in 2002. The large metro station serves as the city's transit department's downtown headquarters. It also serves as a transfer point for local buses, Greyhound buses, Amtrak passenger trains, and the Rail Runner commuter rail line.

During the early twentieth century, the dry climate of New Mexico drew many tuberculosis patients to the city in search of a cure, and several sanitaria sprang up on the West Mesa to serve them. During this time, Presbyterian Hospital and St. Joseph Hospital, two of the largest hospitals in the Southwest, were founded. Tuberculosis brought influential New Deal–era governor Clyde Tingley and famed Southwestern architect John Gaw Meem to New Mexico.

The first Route 66 travelers arrived in Albuquerque in 1926, and dozens of motels, restaurants, and gift shops sprang up along the route to serve them. Route 66 initially ran north–south through the city along Fourth Street, but in 1937 it was realigned along Central Avenue, a more direct east–west route. For decades, the intersection of Fourth and Central in downtown was the city's main crossroads. The majority of the remaining Route 66 structures are on Central, though some are also on Fourth. The old route between Bernalillo and Los Lunas now has brown historical highway markers denoting it as Pre-1937 Route 66.

Albuquerque would become a key player in the Atomic Age with the establishment of Kirtland Air Force Base in 1939, Sandia Base in the early 1940s, and Sandia National Laboratories in 1949. Meanwhile, the city grew outward into the Northeast Heights, reaching a population of 201,189 by 1960. It was 384,736 in 1990 and 518,271 in 2007. Albuquerque was named the sixth fastest-growing city in the United States in June 2007. Albuquerque's population was 34.5 percent Hispanic and 58.3 percent non-Hispanic white in 1990, according to the United States Census Bureau.

A USAF B-29 bomber carrying a nuclear weapon crashed into a mountain near Manzano Base on April 11, 1950. On May 22, 1957, while landing at Kirtland Air Force Base, a B-36 dropped a Mark 17 nuclear bomb 4.5 miles from the control tower. Because the bomb was unarmed, only the conventional trigger detonated. For decades, these incidents were classified.

Albuquerque's downtown went through the same stages and developments as nearly every other city in the country (decline, "urban renewal" with continued decline, and gentrification). The downtown area of Albuquerque declined as the city expanded. As part of the city's urban renewal phase in the 1960s and 1970s, many historic buildings were demolished to make way for new plazas, high-rises, and parking lots. As of 2010, Downtown Albuquerque had only recently regained much of its urban character, owing primarily to the construction of many new loft apartment buildings and the renovation of historic structures such as the KiMo Theater during the gentrification phase.

Albuquerque's population has grown rapidly in the twenty-first century. The city proper's population was estimated to be 528,497 in 2009, up from 448,607 in the 2000 census. The city celebrated its tricentennial with a diverse program of cultural events in 2005 and 2006.

The Planned Growth Strategy, passed in 2002–2004, was the community's most concerted effort to establish a framework for a more balanced and sustainable approach to urban growth.

The Sandia Pueblo to the north, the Isleta Pueblo and Kirtland Air Force Base to the south, and the Sandia Mountains to the east limit urban sprawl. Suburban development is accelerating to the west, beyond the Petroglyph National Monument, which was once thought to be a natural boundary to sprawl development.

Much of the metropolitan area's growth is occurring outside of Albuquerque due to less expensive land and lower taxes. Population growth rates in Rio Rancho, the communities east of the mountains, and the incorporated parts of Valencia County are nearly double those in Albuquerque. Valencia County's main cities are Los Lunas and Belen, both of which have expanding industrial complexes and new residential subdivisions. While Tijeras, Edgewood, and Moriarty are close enough to Albuquerque to be considered suburbs, have seen significantly less growth than Rio Rancho, Bernalillo, Los Lunas, and Belen. The main constraints to development in these towns are a lack of water supply and rugged terrain. The Mid Region Council of Governments (MRCOG), which includes constituents from all over Albuquerque, was formed to ensure that these governments along the Rio Grande's middle reaches could meet the needs of their rapidly growing populations. The New Mexico Rail Runner Express is currently MRCOG's flagship project. The Albuquerque Journal ranked Albuquerque as the third best city in which to own an investment property in October 2013.

5 techniques to boost your self esteem

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The importance of raising our sense of self-worth is widely acknowledged. We feel better about ourselves and are more resilient when our self-esteem is higher. According to brain imaging research, when our self-esteem is higher, we are more likely to take rejection and failure less personally and recover from them more quickly. We produce less cortisol into our bloodstream while under stress and it is less likely to stay in our system when we have higher self-esteem, which makes us less prone to worry.

But as wonderful as it is to have higher self-esteem, it turns out that improving it is no easy task. Despite the seemingly endless supply of articles, programs, and products that claim to boost our self-esteem, the truth is that many of them fail, and some may even worsen our feelings.

Our self-esteem tends to fluctuate daily, if not hourly, which contributes to the issue in part because it is already very unstable. The fact that our self-esteem consists of both our general feelings about ourselves and how we feel about ourselves in certain areas of our lives further complicates the situation (e.g., as a father, a nurse, an athlete, etc.). A particular self-esteem domain's influence on our overall self-esteem increases with its significance. A chef's self-esteem will be affected far more than someone for whom cooking is not a vital component of their identity if someone winces when they taste the not-so-delicious dish you made.

Last but not least, having a high sense of self-worth is beneficial, but only in moderation. A narcissist's extremely high self-esteem is frequently quite fragile. Even while these people frequently have a positive self-image, they also have a propensity to be particularly sensitive to criticism and unfavorable feedback and to react to it in ways that hinder their ability to grow psychologically.

Nevertheless, if we approach it the proper way, it is undoubtedly feasible to raise our sense of self-worth. Here are five strategies for boosting low self-esteem:

1. Correctly use positive affirmations
Positive affirmations like "I am going to be a big success!" are very common, but they have a serious flaw in that they frequently lead to negative self-esteem in those who possess it. Why? Because such claims just run counter to our held ideas when we have poor self-esteem. Ironically, persons who already have great self-esteem might benefit from positive affirmations. Affirmations must be modified to become more credible if you want them to be effective while your self-esteem is flagging. You may substitute "I'm going to succeed greatly!" for "I'm going to endure until I succeed!" as an example.

2. Develop your competencies by identifying them.
Self-esteem is developed through showcasing genuine aptitude and success in spheres of life that are important to us. Throw more dinner parties if you take pride in your culinary abilities. If you're an accomplished runner, register for events and prepare for them. Decide on your primary competencies, then look for jobs and opportunities that highlight them.

3. Recognize and value compliments.
Since we tend to be more resistive to praises when we don't feel good about ourselves, it might be difficult to boost self-esteem at a time when we most need it. So, even if receiving compliments causes you discomfort, make it a goal for yourself to tolerate them (and they will). The simplest method to prevent reflexively rejecting compliments is to prepare short, standard responses and practice saying them out loud whenever you receive positive comments (for example, "Thank you" or "How nice of you to say"). The urge to reject compliments will eventually go away, which is also a positive sign that your self-esteem is growing.

4. Remove self-criticism and replace it with self-compassion
Unfortunately, when we are self-critical, we are more prone to further lower our self-esteem. We need to replace self-criticism, which is nearly always completely ineffective even when it feels persuasive, with self-compassion if our goal is to increase our self-esteem. In particular, whenever you find yourself engaging in self-criticism, ask yourself what you would say to a close friend if they were in your shoes (we have a tendency to be much more forgiving of friends than we are of ourselves). Then, apply those words to yourself. By doing this, you'll prevent yourself from thinking negatively about yourself and contribute to its growth.

5. Declare your worth.
It has been shown that the activity below can boost your self-esteem when it has been damaged: Make a list of your strengths that are relevant to the situation. For instance, if you were turned down on a date, list the traits that would make you a desirable partner (such as loyalty or emotional openness); if you were passed over for a promotion at work, list the traits that would make you a great worker (you have a strong work ethic or are responsible). Then, pick one thing from your list and compose a succinct essay (between one and two paragraphs) explaining why it is valuable and likely to be admired by others in the future. Perform the exercise daily for a week or whenever you require a boost in self-esteem.
The basic line is that raising self-esteem needs some effort because it entails forming and sustaining healthier emotional routines, but doing so, and doing it effectively in particular, can provide significant emotional and psychological benefits.

Today's the day

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Is there anything more foolish than those people who take pride in their foresight? They intentionally keep themselves busy in order to enhance their lives; they live their lives arranging their lives. They focus on the far-off future as their direction. The largest waste of life, however, is delaying things because it robs us of the present while promising the future. Expectancy, which hangs on to tomorrow and loses today, is the biggest barrier to living. What is under Fortune's control is being organized by you, and giving up what is in your possession. What are you observing? What are you putting effort into? Live now because there is no way to predict the future. Listen to the cries of our greatest poet, who sings uplifting words as though moved by divine inspiration: Here, being the first to depart is usually the best day of life for miserable mortals.

Why are you staying? He intends. "Why are you sitting around? It runs away if you don't catch it first. Furthermore, it won't matter if you understand it. Even if you catch it, it will still run away. Therefore, you must use time swiftly in proportion to your own pace, and you must drink quickly as though from a swift stream that won't constantly flow. The poet very elegantly refers to the "finest day" rather than the "finest age" while criticizing prolonged delay. Despite your avarice, why are you so carefree and slow (considering how quickly time passes) as months and years stretch out in front of you? The poet is narrating to you about the day, namely about this day that is slipping away. Can it perhaps be disputed that the best day is usually the first to end for sad beings, that is, the preoccupied?

Desensitization Can Help You Manage Anxiety

Desensitization Can Help You Manage Anxiety

Anxiety triggers are common in many people. There are likely things in your life that cause intense anxiety if you have panic attacks, post-traumatic stress disorder, severe generalized anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, or another type of phobia. They could be:
Thoughts and concerns
Your body's physical sensations/changes
Sounds or visuals.
Different types of anxiety have different triggers, but regardless of your specific trigger, issues in your life can cause severe anxiety.

You must find a way to stop these triggers from affecting you. Although cognitive behavioral therapy is an effective solution for changing thought patterns and behaviors, it does not always help you control your reaction to the trigger. Some counselors use desensitization for this purpose.

What exactly is desensitization?

When you have an anxiety disorder, desensitization is a process that helps you reduce the exaggerated responses (triggers) that cause severe anxiety. Your mind and body become accustomed to the triggers through various desensitization processes, so that they no longer elicit the same involuntary anxiety response.

It is best to use desensitization techniques under the supervision of someone who has prior experience. It's not as simple as repeatedly exposing yourself to the anxiety trigger. When you experience that level of anxiety, you need a plan and a way to help calm yourself down.

However, you can try desensitization in the comfort of your own home and, in some cases, you may find that you can effectively reduce the severity of your anxiety triggers.

How to Begin Your Personal Desensitization Plan

        *Desensitization requires gradual or controlled exposure to your fear. Your specific plan will be determined by the nature of your fear and the extent to which it affects you. Because your fear may be real or imagined, the best way to get started is to first determine what type of trigger you have. Consider two examples: 

     *Dizziness Anxiety attacks can cause dizziness. This dizziness can cause more anxiety attacks can cause dizziness. This dizziness can cause more anxiety, which can exacerbate panic attacks. Even if the individual is already anxious, the trigger for additional anxiety is a real sensation - dizziness - that the individual must target.

       *Snakes You may believe that a phobia, such as snakes, is real - after all, snakes are real - but the fear is actually imaginary. You probably don't come across snakes every day, and most snakes aren't dangerous, but if you fear snakes to the point where it interferes with your life (and if the mere thought of snakes causes fear, even if a snake isn't present), the fear is imaginary.

Determine what your triggers are. If the thought of them makes you nervous, it's probably an imaginary fear. If you have firsthand knowledge of the problem, your fear may be justified. In some ways, it could be a hybrid of the two. The first step is to figure this out.

There are four steps to desensitization to your triggers and fears. They are as follows:

Preparation

The first step is to prepare. This requires both mental preparation and the creation of a plan. First, you must ensure that you are prepared for this and that you can commit to it. If you expose yourself to the trigger and do not follow through with your desensitization plan, you may actually increase your fear.

You should also plan ahead of time what you're going to do and how you're going to do it. You don't want to let your fear prevent you from doing everything necessary to desensitize yourself, which means you also need to have a plan/project in place based on your desensitization research that will help you prepare for the road ahead.

Initially Exposed

It's time to get started once you're ready. There are two techniques for desensitization therapy, which we will describe below, but before you start, make sure you've written down how much the triggers bother you.

Most people have multiple triggers, and you'll want to address one before moving on to the next. Use a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 representing "severe anxiety" and 1representing "no anxiety." Write down every trigger and then arrange them in a hierarchy so that you can combat them one at a time, beginning with your worst trigger. Always begin with your worst fear, because it frequently contributes to other fears. Then choose one of the following

      *Progressive Begin with a gradual desensitization plan for imagined triggers. This is most effective for phobias. If you're afraid of spiders, for example, think about a scary spider or look at a newspaper with a spider photo. Continue to look at it, and try to relax while doing so. Don't look away - just imagine and/or look at a picture of a spider to get used to the experience so that the picture of a spider eventually doesn't scare you.

        *Controlled When you have a true trigger, employ a controlled desensitization strategy. Let's go back to the dizziness example. You will spin around in a chair until you feel dizzy. It may cause you some anxiety, which is fine, but you must experience extreme dizziness. The goal of this strategy is to keep experiencing it until you become accustomed to it and your mind and body no longer experience as much fear when experiencing dizziness.
Remember to only activate one trigger at a time. Before moving on to the next trigger, you should ensure that it only causes a 1 or 2 on the anxiety scale.

Extensive Exposure

Continue to expose yourself to the fear every day (or whenever possible). Wait until each individual source of fear no longer causes as much anxiety if you're using the progressive desensitization technique. As an example, consider spiders:

        * Begin by considering spiders. When thinking about spiders no longer bothers you, move on.

       *Continue by looking at a photograph. Move on once the photo no longer affects you.

        *Continue by looking at various photos. Move on once they no longer cause anxiety.

        *Continue by watching spider videos on YouTube. Move on once they no longer cause anxiety.

       *After that, examine actual spiders. Move on once they no longer cause anxiety. Next, try touching or getting close to a spider. You may be done once it no longer causes anxiety. Progressive desensitization entails gradually increasing your exposure to the thing that scares you the most. It's not always a good idea to jump to the end because the fear can be overpowering. Gradual - especially for imagined fears - is far superior.

Continue the same controlled technique (making yourself dizzy in this case) until it simply stops causing you anxiety for real fears or those that benefit better from controlled desensitization. Then proceed to the next trigger. Those who suffer from panic attacks frequently have multiple triggers based on physical sensations, so stopping them all will take time.

Maintenance

If you don't keep at it, your anxiety and fears may return. So the final step is upkeep. Once you've completely reduced your anxieties in these areas, set aside time once a month or so to perform all of these once again (touching a spider, making yourself dizzy, etc.) and see if they cause any anxiety. If not, that's fine; you're still safe. If they do, note how much anxiety they cause on your scale and work with them again until it returns to a 1 or 2.

Desensitization Techniques for Yourself

It is possible to desensitize yourself in the privacy of your own home. However, it is generally recommended that you do it in the presence of experts. Psychologists are trained to provide this type of therapeutic assistance to those struggling to control their anxiety, and they can often provide you with personalized calming strategies to help you while you try to desensitize yourself to the fears.

However, some people prefer to perform these techniques on their own, and if you do, make sure you commit to it and follow the steps outlined above.

I KNOW: YOU WANT THAT TATTOO OFF YOUR BODY RIGHT NOW!

I KNOW: YOU WANT THAT TATTOO OFF YOUR BODY RIGHT NOW!

You're tired of...

People judging you based on what they think your tattoo means (and it's never a fair, balanced presumption, is it?)

Tired of having to think of that old flame, or that old tribe that you put behind yourself every time you see your own flesh (Memories can fade - but only given the opportunity).

Tired of having to hide all the time. Of having to think about what you're going to wear just based on your tattoo and whether it's going to be seen or not.

Well I have got news for you. Because no matter what reason you want to get your tattoo removed - you're about to find a whole new proven method for getting it off without even leaving your house (other than perhaps a quick trip to the grocery store!).

WHY LASER TATTOO REMOVALS COST SO MUCH MORE THAN TATTOO ARTISTS

It's all about image, my friend.

Before you spend a dime on tattoo removal, you need to know something

VERY important.

That the tattoo REMOVAL industry makes a lot more than the artists do on

tattoos...

For no reason other than the PAIN of having an unwanted tattoo. PAIN that

they take to the bank!

WHERE THERE'S MONEY, THERE'S GREED MY FRIEND. THAT'S WHY YOU NEED TO KNOW ONE MORE THING:

Laser tattoo removal costs $200-$500 per treatment, $2,000 on average for

a full treatment!

And it's the worst way to remove a tattoo.

These aren't cancer cells we're talking about. Just ink below the skin.

But like I said, when you have an industry that can make $200-$500 for a quick visit - people are going to take advantage. Good information about ALL NATURAL, HOME-BASED tattoo removal gets drowned out by the local laser tattoo removal clinic and its nonstop misinformation campaign. I've seen it in every community I've worked in. There's a better way. Stay with me and read this next part to learn what it is...

I KNOW: YOU WANT THAT TATTOO OFF YOUR BODY

RIGHT NOW!

10 signs you are being used in a relationship and what to do

10 signs you are being used in a relationship and what to do By: Frankie Martinez, June, 26, 2022,

Finding someone you can love and rely on for the rest of your life is something everyone seeks. Some people are successful in finding their ideal mate, while others fail and fall into a poor relationship.

After some time, they realize that they are just being taken advantage of by their spouse.

The following are some blatant indications that your partner is abusing you:

No one ever wants to experience the sad sense of being used by a lover in their lifetime.

It can be challenging to realize when your partner is abusing you, though. However, if you keep an eye out for specific indicators, you can determine whether or not your partner is abusing you.

Always looking for anything from you

Your partner will often ask you for something, which is one of the obvious warning signals you can look out for. It could be anything, including cash, a product, or anything else. They will be polite to you as long as you continue to provide for their needs.

However, if you stop supplying them, you'll notice a shift in their attitude and conduct as they start acting rudely and angrily all the time. It is an obvious indication that your partner is only with you as long as you continue to provide for their needs.

You can refuse to offer your partner anything they need in order to catch them off guard. Then you must watch for their response and gauge how they will handle the circumstance. In this manner, it will be simple for you to determine whether your partner is abusing you.

They frequently discuss themselves.

There are many people in this world who only want to talk about themselves to other people. If your relationship fits into this description, you may be the victim of abuse.

You'll notice that no matter what the topic of a conversation you two are having is, your partner will always bring up the subject of the other person.

They could need someone to talk to, and you are the ideal person to do that. Your partner can be responding to a need rather than doing something on purpose.

Whatever the case, you should exercise caution in these relationships because you cannot find the deep love you want.

You are the one who is always making payments.

You two might spend a lot of time together as a pair and go to restaurants, hotels, parks, or other locations.

You must pay a charge in order to have fun in these locations. Now that you feel safe doing so, you can just concentrate on having fun.

Whatever the situation may be, you should take caution in these relationships because the kind of profound love you're looking for is not available.

You Consistently Save Them

No matter how terrible things go for your spouse, you will always be there for them in a relationship. No matter what, you will always keep them safe. However, some people might benefit from it.

Beware that your partner may be manipulating you if you find yourself saving them from themselves all the time.

It's possible that all your partner wants is someone who will come to their aid whenever necessary. Such relationships don't continue for very long, so it is preferable to end them.

Every time, You're Compelled To Answer "Yes"

You have a hard time saying no when your partner asks you to do anything. You could be unable to say no out of desperation or out of fear of upsetting someone.

In either case, it is an obvious sign that your partner is taking advantage of you. You must have the flexibility to choose whether to answer YES or NO if your spouse genuinely cares about you.

To decide, each of you must possess equal power.

They regard you as a given.

It may indicate that you are being used if your partner constantly requests things from you. Some people force others to do whatever they want and take them for granted. If your spouse exhibits the same behavior, you are being taken advantage of.

Your partner is constantly asking you to do things because they don't like to hear a no. The best course of action in such circumstances is to end your relationship and move on.

You will continue to be used by your partner anytime they need something if you stay in such a relationship.If this applies to you, you must cut off all contact with your partner.

You must stop communicating with your lover completely if you wish to recover fully.

You'll be able to concentrate on other aspects of your life and heal more rapidly as a result. But if you continue to choose to communicate, you risk suffering greater harm than before.

Spend time with friends and family
Spending time with family and friends is the best method to keep yourself active all day. They'll keep you occupied all day long, which will let you focus on something other than your partner.

To acquire all the assistance you can, you can also discuss your problem with them.

You will undoubtedly feel better and have more energy each day as a result. You can always rely on your family and friends because they genuinely care about you and will support you while you work through the discomfort.

Take Up A Busy Life

Getting occupied in life is one of the finest strategies to cease reflecting on the past. You won't have time to reflect on the past if you spend the entire day engaged in other things.

By doing so, you can put your attention on the future and continue living.

You can occupy yourself by working, reading, watching movies, or doing anything else. Whatever you do, just be sure to keep yourself interested and control your emotions. You can definitely move on from the past if you practice self-care every day.

Put an end to self-blame

You can begin blaming yourself for not realizing you were being used by your partner as soon as you realize it. You'll begin to despise yourself and won't even be able to look in the mirror.

Such circumstances must be avoided at all costs because they may have a detrimental effect on your life.

You must realize that it was impossible for you to discover that your boyfriend was abusing you. After all, you trusted your spouse and were completely in love with them. However, there is no point in focusing on the past; you should instead look forward.

Consider your future.

It's not the end of the world just because your partner was taking advantage of you. Such events frequently occur because the planet is so vast.

In fact, you should be happy that you discovered this sooner.

You should now put all of your attention towards starting a new path and moving on with your life. You still have a lot of options in life besides just moping around in sorrow over whatever occurred. So, put the past in the past and focus on what is ahead for you.

Resuming dating

You can attempt dating once more to help you forget the past and put your attention on the present in order to move on. This phase is optional, so you shouldn't try it if you aren't yet at ease with dating again.

However, you should think about this alternative and begin dating if you want to put your past behind you.

If you're lucky, you might finally meet the kind of spouse you've always envisioned. You must therefore cease holding onto the past and start looking forward. You will undoubtedly heal and improve as a result.

Remain positive

You shouldn't lose faith in yourself after understanding you were being taken advantage of. Never assume that it is entirely your responsibility or that you should have known sooner.

It serves no purpose to consider all of things at this time because nothing will change.

Instead, you must adopt a positive outlook and be prepared to reenter society. You must maintain your optimism and have faith that you will never again be used by anyone.

Consider the fact that some individuals genuinely care about you and that not everyone wants to utilize.

Get Expert Assistance

You might think about getting professional assistance if you are having a hard time getting over your partner using you.

You might seek the advice of a specialist who can assist you in dealing with both the trauma and the discomfort.

The consultant will provide you some of the greatest methods for letting go of all the negativity and moving on. You can also seek treatment, which will undoubtedly benefit you psychologically and physically.

Just be sure you are giving your all and not holding anything back.

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