It goes without saying (but I’ll say it anyway!) that the college hunt is daunting. Cramming for the ACT, attending information sessions, going on tours with current students of the university where you’re so unfamiliar with the school that you don’t even know what to say when they ask if you have any questions - the whole ordeal. It’s all the more intimidating and foreign when you’re stepping onto campus as an out-of-state student.
Hey there! My name is Emma Nisbet - member of Delta Class 10 - and I’m from Columbia, Tennessee. If you have absolutely no idea where that is, just think relatively an hour south of Nashville and - boom - it’s right there. Columbia is definitely on the smaller side. Actually, I’d say it’s just about the same size as Starkville (so, on that front, not much of an adjustment for me!).
Long story short, I came to Mississippi State University alone. I knew no one when I first arrived here. In fact, I had never even heard of the school until my mom mentioned it to me early on in my senior year of high school. Though, the second I set foot on campus for the first time, my mind was set. My dad always told me to ask yourself if you could envision actually living at this school for four whole years of your life; Mississippi State University was the only school I looked at where I could confidently say yes to that question.
I took on every opportunity to better my chances at finding my place at a whole new school - in a whole new state, no less. Before my first tour at MSU, I’d visited Mississippi one time on a family vacation to the coast. Funny story, the first time it truly sunk in that I was now living in a new state was at the first football game of the season and the players ran out on the field with the magnolia emblazoned Mississippi flag trailing behind them - not the tri-star Tennessee flag that I had known for as long as I can remember.
I signed up for New Maroon Camp and, obviously, I went through Fall Recruitment. I wanted to ensure that every door was open to me for finding new friends.
It was practically a given that I would try out for a sorority. My dad was in Phi Delta Theta at the University of Southern California, back in the ‘80s; my older sister was in Kappa Alpha Theta at Auburn University. Greek Life has been running in my family for quite a while now.
I’m going to be extremely blunt here: I’m a complete introvert. I find my energy by spending time alone, rather than surrounding myself with others. I can socialize and have fun and then I have to head off to recharge by myself. Maybe I’ll read a book or watch a movie or something like that.
Rinse. Repeat.
They say you find your closest friends - literally your sisters - in your sorority. After about a month in Alpha Delta Pi, I could absolutely agree.
The conversations with the girls I spoke with at every party during Recruitment felt closer to a casual chat between good friends rather than a rapid-fire interview. There was an immediate click; I knew that this was where I was meant to be.
I found my home in Alpha Delta Pi. They chose me just as much as I chose them.
Though, other than joining a sorority, what are some other ways to make friends on campus - especially as an out-of-state student? Here are just two simple suggestions, from me to you!
1.Get Involved.
If I could shout this one from the rooftops, I would. This is the absolute best way to find a place on campus. I’m a Communications major (with a concentration in Print and Digital Journalism) and one week into the semester, I applied to work for the student newspaper and I’ve been working for them ever since. I also love creative writing (minoring in it too!) and I’m now on the Editorial Board for the student-run creative arts journal. I met some truly amazing people through New Maroon Camp who I’m still close to even now. I don’t just have friends in ADPi; I’ve met people all over! I’ll say it again and again if I have to: get involved, get involved, get involved. Take a moment and think about what you enjoy; I’m sure there’s a club for that somewhere. Go out there and find it.
2.Put Yourself Out There.
I know, I know. How dare the introvert say anything about standing out in a crowd. Well, that’s not what I’m saying. I am saying that you need to step out of your comfort zone. Your comfort zone is safe; your comfort zone is, well, comfortable. You won’t learn anything new - or meet anyone - by staying in your own little bubble of the world. Believe me. Trust me, it is way easier to sit in your room on a Wednesday night but…what about that new book club starting up? There’s always something happening on campus. Seriously, I could throw a rock in the Union and be almost guaranteed to hit one of the student organizations that are tabling that afternoon (please don’t throw anything in the Union). Go up and introduce yourself! Like I said: I’m a quiet girl from a small town. I had built up that sort of persona of myself throughout school. I saw college as an opportunity for a completely fresh start like never before. I jumped on that opportunity. I’ve seriously grown more as a person in the past semester than I have in my whole life and that is in no way an exaggeration.
With all that being said, don’t pressure yourself. College is stressful enough as it is. Running yourself ragged isn’t going to help anyone - least of all you. I learned that the hard way with my harsh experiences with that good ol’ friend, FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). You can put in the effort to get out in the world but some of it will happen naturally. College only happens once -savor it!
Thank you for reading and have a wonderful day!