About Renee’

I am my favorite person.

30-something-year-old female navigating life through trial and error. Trust me. It’s better that way.

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My First Crush

August 27, 2020

𝙼𝚢 𝚑𝚞𝚜𝚋𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚛𝚎𝚒𝚗𝚝𝚛𝚘𝚍𝚞𝚌𝚎𝚍 𝚖𝚎 𝚝𝚘 𝚖𝚢 𝚌𝚑𝚒𝚕𝚍𝚑𝚘𝚘𝚍 𝚌𝚛𝚞𝚜𝚑••𝚂𝚗𝚎𝚊𝚔𝚎𝚛𝚜

As you a young girl, I grew up with my uncles who were more like brothers. I tried to play basketball and football with them and their friends, and I even endured their tough love during our multiple fights.

𝑰 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒂 𝒕𝒐𝒎𝒃𝒐𝒚.

From Ralph Lauren Polo shirts to Eastland boots and Girbaud jeans, I completely emulated their style. And there was nothing greater then getting a new pair of J's or the newest Air Max.

When new shoes dropped, I convinced my mom I had to have them. And with hesitancy she made it happen.

College came around and I traded in my loose fitting clothes and sneakers for dresses and stiletto pumps. Like I really walked around campus with heels on. Why?!

I forgot all about my first childhood crush.

Fast forward several years later and my husband slowly began to remind me of my crush. He has quite the sneaker collection😍

I remember complimenting him on a few shoes here and there when were dating, and before I knew it he started creating a collection for me. I don't have nearly as many shoes as him, but I do find myself on the SNKRS app searching for the newest releases to add to my collection.

I forgot how much I missed the versatility of sneakers.

I'm so happy I reunited with my first crush.

Featured Sneakers: Nike Air Max 95•Pony Hair

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The Art of Saying No

August 6, 2020

Are you good at saying no, or do you struggle with this? I have such a difficult time saying no.

Well, I had a difficult time. Now I’m learning its quite simple. Just say NO. We learned this as kids as part of the DARE! (Drug Abuse Resistance Education) Program. Just say no.

A few weeks ago, a friend reached out to me due to a personal situation that led to resurgence of her depression. We both suffer from intermittent depression and have each been there for the other during difficult times. When she reached out to me, I was trying to manage my own emotions related to witnessing the murders of Ahmaud Arbery, George Floyd, and Breonna Taylor.

As a Black woman, I am tired of seeing the modern day lynching of my brothers and sisters so I did not have the mental or emotional capacity to offer myself to someone else. If I did, I knew I would be sacrificing my own mental well-being. I contemplated for approximately 20 minutes on how I could extend myself to someone else then I realized that’s what I always do. In that moment I realized I had to just say NO.

Saying no doesn’t mean we don’t care about the other person or what is being asked of us. It just means that we also care for self and recognize our limitations.

My friend completely understood why I had to say no. There was no love lost. Unfortunately, some people can’t handle you saying no and take it personally. Oh well! Let those people be. As you learn to say no, remember why you are saying no. If you don’t make you a priority, no one else will.

I challenge you to begin working on the art of saying no.

Talk soon!

Blog Post

Be the Light

July 31, 2020

Wow! Where do I start? First, welcome to my very first blog post. This is a work in progress and is long overdue. I’ve been interested in beginning a blog for a really long time, but I always had some other “obligation” that took priority over blogging. I finally decided to do something for me that brings me personal fulfillment.

This blog post is titled, “Be the Light”. Random, right? Not so much. I actually have a photo (part of my office decor) that says this exact thing. Be the Light.

Simple phrase, but it holds so much meaning. Since I was little girl, I always wanted others to be happy. I guess you can say I was the light for others, but I so often neglected myself.

Well, babygirl/baby boy, I have decided to not only be the light for others, but to also be the light for myself. This is long overdue. We get so weighed down with work obligations and obligations to others, but we so often forget to take care of self. The last year has been an eye opening experience for me. I accomplished a huge work milestone, got married, started a new job, and had a MAJOR mental breakdown. It was beautiful and ugly all at the same time. Of course, I will eventually share more, but this is my start. This is me finally being my own light. I can’t wait to see what darkness I brighten as I continue this journey. I hope you all join in and decide to be your own light.

Talk soon!

What to Expect —

This is for all my Shonda TGIT fans! Don't fret. No new episodes of Scandal, but be sure to check out the blog every Thursday for new blog posts. Some posts will be educational, while others will be petty. That's balance!

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