To S.

You’ve always known you wanted to be a mum. You’ve also always had extremely scattered and painful periods that often led to missed work, and being bedridden for days. You never thought these two facts would have anything to do with each other. Until you were diagnosed with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and Endometriosis, You had battled with reproductive health issues for years, and was taken into surgery to remove two cyst that had rapidly grown on your right ovary. A year before this, You were travelling Europe, where your husband and self had planned a relaxing holiday to get you both ready for trying to have a baby.

You sometimes suffer from ‘Well, that’s it, it’s too hard, I’m never going to be a mum’. Your husband, on the other hand, has the strongest mindset of anyone you’ve ever met. He is the type of person that when someone tells him ‘You can’t’ he says, ‘Just watch me’. It’s the quality you love the most (and sometimes find the most annoying) about him. When he learned the conception chances, he just kept saying, ‘The more we think we can’t, the less we can’. Easy for him to think, right? It was YOUR body that was holding up the process.

You made a vow to stay focused, and you plunged into the world of “Everything” before IVF. Natural paths and tonics. Fertility Acupuncture and herbal medicines. Multiple Doctors and Gynaecologists. Despite the countless appointments, needles, moods swings, weight gain, irritability and medical bills, You dedicated yourself to believing you would fall pregnant.

You are 28 and not pregnant yet but as clichéd as it sounds, nothing is impossible. Noth-ing. Don’t compare yourself to everyone else, and instead just worry about your own life. STOP obsessing over your age and time! You have time!

Maybe you won’t be a mum in the way you have always thought, but it doesn’t mean that you won’t be a mum at all.
If you have a positive mindset, a strong support system and a big enough will, you can achieve anything. We all know this. We all know that if there is a will there is always a way. Sometimes all it takes is one more round, one more person sharing their success story or one more friend or family member holding your hand when it gets tough.

Don’t give up. Don’t be negative. Don’t listen to the voice inside your head telling you ‘You can’t’. Take a deep breath and say, ‘Just watch me’.

Love always,