Connecting you with Spiritual Support

What is perinatal soul care?

Connecting the expecting, healing, and/or grieving mom or couple with someone who will listen to, pray with, and lovingly guide her with a co-created path to grow forward in hope - all at no cost to the counselee.

A collaborative partnership between you, your spiritual wellness counselor, and God to help you curate and reach your goals.

Your counselor or mentor will help you by:

... seeking to learn about, compassionately understand, deeply care about, and pray for you.

... giving you helpful resources and hope in God's Word (scripture).

... guiding you with gentle loving nudges and by equipping you for the hours, days, and weeks ahead.

Sola Gratia Vita Ministry is a registered 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization certified by the IRS. Our care model serves individuals, couples, and groups, with the mother's emotional, spiritual, and relational wellness being the primary focus.

1:1 Counseling Sessions
1:2 Couple Sessions
2:2 Couple-to-Couple Mentoring
1:3 Intensive Care/Support Group

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Our Story

Welcome! Whether you are a mother, love one, or care for one, we’re grateful you’re here. We want to share with you how God has led us to develop this ministry and where He is taking us next.

We are Ben and Gab Hershman—husband and wife, parents, and fellow laborers in Christ’s kingdom. Sola Gratia Vita was born from a deep conviction to walk alongside women, couples, and families navigating perinatal, reproductive, and grief-related challenges. This ministry is an outpouring of the grace we’ve received, woven through the joys and sorrows of our own journey.

Gab’s path to soul care began in an unexpected way—moving from the beauty industry to women’s ministry, then into birthwork as a doula and childbirth educator. Each season prepared her heart to serve mothers and couples more deeply, from expectant joy to the heartbreak of loss. Over the past sixteen years, through motherhood’s refining firey moments, she has been equipped to offer comfort, encouragement, and the hope of Christ to those facing some of life’s most tender transitions.

As for Ben, God called him from the world of electrical work into teaching, worship ministry, and leading our family in faith. His steadfast presence in this work is a quiet but powerful reflection of Christ’s love—reminding us that ministry is not just about serving others but about how we walk together as husband and wife, as parents, and as co-laborers in the gospel. His role is not just as a support but as a shepherding presence for husbands who are seeking to love and lead well through the challenges of loss, uncertainty, and new life.

At Sola Gratia Vita, our prayer is that mothers and couples walking through these seasons, will feel truly known, loved, and equipped for their calling. That they would experience the presence of the Holy Spirit in sleepless nights, in moments of doubt, and in the quiet ache of grief. That they would know they are not alone.

Soul Care?

It’s where care and comfort meet help and hope.

Motherhood and marriage —like life itself—are full of contrasts:
Joy and sorrow.
DirecGrowth and loss.
Laughter and tears.
Hope and suffering.

But by grace alone, even in the depths of grief, God brings redemption. Through Christ, we have seen beauty rise from ashes. And in our deepest wounds, He has given us the privilege of extending His comfort to others.

Our Prayer for This Work?

That every mother and every couple we serve who are enduring these tender seasons, would see God’s glory revealed in ways beyond their imagining. That they would find rest—not in what they or even we can do, but in what He has already done. That even in suffering, they would taste and see that the Lord is good.

By His grace alone,
Ben & Gab Hershman
Directors of Sola Gratia Vita

Portrait: Burgh Babies Photography // 2024

Our Values

Sola Gratia Vita offers spiritual support for mothers in need of soul care navigating seasons of perinatal suffering, trauma, and grief, and we value being scripturally grounded, clinically informed, and trauma-aware. With these values, this ministry of care touches upon the spiritual, emotional, relational, and physical life of the mother through her journey.

Scripturally Rooted:
The ministry’s core is deeply rooted in Scripture, offering mothers a foundation of hope, healing, and assurance in God’s promises during their journey through perinatal loss or grief. By drawing on the biblical teachings of Christ, Sola Gratia Vita provides spiritual wisdom, showing that God’s presence and lifegiving, lasting comfort are available even in the most difficult seasons of motherhood.

Clinically Informed:
Alongside biblical soul care, Sola Gratia Vita also incorporates clinical insights from healthcare professionals, ensuring that mothers receive holistic support that combines faith with scripturally abiding evidence-based practices. The ministry’s use of secular materials is refined to those which align with biblical principals. Being clinically-informed addresses the physiological aspects of healing, offering a complete path toward holistic wellness.

Trauma Aware:
Understanding and uncovering the profound emotional and psychological impact of perinatal suffering, Sola Gratia Vita is committed to being trauma aware, creating a compassionate environment where mothers can safely grieve, process, and heal at a comfortable pace. This approach respects the unique trauma each mother faces and honors the journey with empathy and sensitivity to individual experiences.

We are NOT a clinically-based Intervention Team; therefore, if you are currently in crisis (manic, suicidal, homicidal, etc.), please call 911 or 988 for the suicide hotline.

Soul Care Together

Co-Care Sessions for Helpers

✨ New Offering for Helpers✨

This work is sacred, and it’s also deeply heavy. Holding space for others through reproductive perinatal loss, and trauma takes a toll—on our hearts, minds, and spirits. That’s why Sola Gratia Vita is now offering Soul Care Together Co-Care Sessions—a new way to simplify access to healing and support, both for your clients and for YOU, together.

Rather than just referring a client and hoping they follow through and get help, you can now walk with them into a safe, hope-centered space for soul care. These sessions allow you to:

✨ Support your client in real time as they process grief, trauma, or other emotional weight.
✨ Receive your own personal nourishment as you hold space—because secondary trauma is real.
✨ Deepen your professional skills by witnessing trauma-informed counseling in action.

This is not just another referral step. It’s a shared experience of healing, one that strengthens both your clients and your calling.

Let’s care for one another as we care for others. Interested? Let’s connect.🕊️

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reading list

recommendations for pregnancy, postpartum, and motherhood

consider this a menu for words of wisdom to take in during your childbearing year. i pray that select words would jump off the pages and speak life into your family for years to come...

Midnight Mercies

Are you a mother whose hope has vanished, whose world seems drained of color, and whose life is overshadowed by clouds that never seem to part?

In this empathetic, God-centered journey from hopelessness to hope, biblical counselor Christine Chappell takes you by the hand on a path through the darkness. Sharing her own experience with depression and the anguished cries of God’s people throughout Scripture, she reveals Christ’s compassion for the hurting without resorting to quick fixes or trite solutions. As you read, you will be reminded of his faithfulness to you and presence with you—even when the darkness doesn’t lift.

Each chapter concludes with immediate help in the form of simple next steps, a Scripture verse for contemplation and comfort, and questions for journaling. Whether you feel hopeless, weary, sad, angry, anxious, ashamed, or lonely, God’s new morning mercies will sustain you, no matter how dark the night.

Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad

“Why me, Lord?”

Amid the toddler tantrums, the mealtime melees, and the backseat blowups, have you found yourself asking God that same question? Maybe even screaming it into a couch pillow? You’re not alone.

Your most trying moments as a parent can quickly spiral into discouragement, hopelessness, and sometimes even resentment toward God or your family—partly because our culture has conditioned us to believe that anything this hard can’t possibly be good for us.

Abbie Halberstadt, author of the bestselling M is for Mama, shares scriptural wisdom and lessons learned from her own challenges as a mama of ten to help shift your perspective on the hardships of parenting and of life, in general.

When you begin to see struggles as a necessary part of God’s plan for your spiritual growth, you can discover supernatural peace and purpose, even when you’re down in the deepest trenches of parenthood.

RISEN MOTHERHOOD

Want to learn how to connect your Sunday morning faith to the Monday morning toddler tantrum? Tackling real life topics like postpartum body image, food choices, marriage, traditions, and school choices, Emily and Laura will help you discover that the gospel really does change everything.

NONE LIKE HIM

God is self-existent, self-sufficient, eternal, immutable, omnipresent, omniscient, omnipotent, sovereign, infinite, and incomprehensible.

We're not.

And that's a good thing.

... ESPECIALLY throughout pregnancy, birth, postpartum, and all of motherhood.

LABOR WITH HOPE

Gospel Meditations on Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Motherhood.

IN HIS IMAGE

Reading this through the lens of motherhood, this can be applied to the calling of motherhood!

By exploring ten characteristics of who God is—holy, loving, just, good, merciful, gracious, faithful, patient, truthful, and wise—this book helps us understand who God intends for us to be.

HOLY LABOR

“Holy Labor is a thoughtful guide to approaching birth with wisdom, grace, and yes, even joy! A must-read for expectant and experienced mothers, as well as anyone seeking a deeper understanding for how the love of God shows up in the meaningful labor of childbirth.”

– Courtney B. Ellis

EXPECTANT

“What if pregnancy did more than change our bodies; what if it transformed our hearts? In a tone that feels like a warm conversation with a dear friend, Heather Cofer encourages us to see pregnancy as an opportunity to bring God glory. Let her words encourage you to worship the Life Giver as you prepare to welcome new life.”

– ERIN DAVIS

REDEEMING CHILDBIRTH

The Postpartum Fog: The Week After Birth, Taking Time to Heal from Pregnancy and Birth - Postpartum Care, Not Every Pregnancy is the Same - Encouragement from a Mom of Seven, I'm Pregnant and my Youngest is Almost 5!, and more!

Preparing Your Heart for Birth

having a spirit-filled, peaceful birth

Preparing for birth can be simple or elaborate, fun or overwhelming, and it can also at times burden us, making it a challenge for peace and joy to fill our hearts. Keep these 3 priorities at the center of your planning for your best whole pregnancy & birth experience!

1. Prep Your Heart

With labor on the horizon, we want to do everything we can to prepare for a safe, healthy and stress-free delivery. But what starts as good desires for well-laid plans, can quickly become an unhealthy idol of control. We start to think that if we just get the right method, the right classes, the right scents, the right sounds, the right environment and the right helpers, then we are nearly guaranteed the birth of our dreams. In this episode, Emily and Laura share their high expectations from previous pregnancies, seeking to understand how our good desires intersect with hope in God's good plans. Because ultimately, our identities aren't wrapped up in how we gave birth, but to whom we belong.

3. All You Need is... Faith?

"Sometimes people (even pastors) say things like, “just have faith” and “you’ve just gotta believe” and “claim it in Jesus’ name,” and THEN good things will happen to you. They teach that, “if you have enough faith,” God has amazing things waiting for you, just around the corner. Sometimes as moms, we can unknowingly take this false prosperity gospel and overlay it on our parenting."

2. Don't Bow Down to Your Birth Ball

"In a moment when my heart should have swelled with unobstructed joy that our child was born, I sulked. In a moment when my eyes should have looked to heaven in wonder that God would be so gracious to me, I wept angrily. My will had not been done, and that bugged me."

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