About Me (*Trigger Warning)
Krystal Koennecke
Hi... I’m Krystal your Abundance Coach...yes I know...another coach. True, there are all sorts of coaches, but there is only one me. I have been fearfully and wonderfully made, and after a long and bumpy road, I am finally stepping into my purpose.
I was sexually molested as a child by my step brother, physically abused by mother, and emotionally and verbally abused by my mother and step father. I grew up angry, sad, lonely, destructive and suicidal. I didn't want to die, I just wanted to stop hurting.
I had been married for 3 years with a 2 year old when my childhood trauma not only surfaced, but erupted. After I told my family about being molested, it caused turmoil and I was made to feel as though I was the problem. It was like living all of the trauma all over again, but all at once. I realized that if I didn't want this to have a major effect on my marriage and my child as well, that I needed to find a therapist. I couldn't just pretend that everything was ok anymore.
Once I found a therapist my insurance would cover, I found out that I was not going to even start the process for another two weeks. I was on an emotional rollercoaster and decided that self care had to be a priority.
I had to learn how to build up my self esteem and learn to love me when the words directed at me screamed the opposite.
I also realized that pretending the trauma never happened, didn’t make the pain go away as I thought I had successfully done for 22 years (the trauma was just disguised as self sabotage). I was 33 years old, and these people couldn’t hurt me anymore without my permission. It was time to learn to set boundaries and to find a therapist to work through things ASAP.
If I am going to be all the way honest, I didn’t want to pay out of pocket and the therapists that were covered by my insurance had a waitlist.
A wife and a mother of a two year old, I didn’t want my trauma to pour over onto them. I had to do something immediately! So, I focused on self care, FORGIVENESS, and boundaries. A big portion of my self care incorporates micro habits of praying, meditating, exercising, and a goal of learning something new everyday; I went from victim to victor.
Through my prayers (talking to God) and meditating (listening for his guidance) it led me here. I was able to see the roadmap that God had created for me that took me from Survival to Purpose.
Now I want to share all I have learned, and help you live the abundant life that God had intended for you.