You must be over the moon, beyond excited, overwhelmed with happiness…ready to shout it from the rooftops that you are pregnant!
What if this ISN’T how you feel? What if instead of feeling joy and excitement you are experiencing bone-chilling fear?
What if this is NOT how you thought you would feel…. but you do?
What if you feel SO guilty about how you actually do feel that you’ve pushed these emotions so far down you need a passport to get back from that place?
Trying as hard as you can to suck it up with a smile plastered on your face like a circus clown hoping to convince yourself and the world around you of your joy?
Sadly friends this is a reality for some.
I’m here to tell you that it is ok to feel like this and more importantly there is nothing wrong with you!
And just to be clear, I’m not just talking about the mummas-to-be out there either folks! These feelings & thoughts are sometimes experienced by dads-to-be also!
For you pregnancy may have occurred spontaneously without much thought, accidentally without any thought or after a long and arduous journey with all consuming thoughts and a helping hand from science.
Regardless of the journey you took to get here you are here! It can be a scary place indeed!
I’m here to reassure you that if you are feeling the feels you didn’t expect to feel it’s ok.
It’s ok to be afraid, to be uncertain and to question your ability to do this.
This is where it all begins.
This is parenthood.
Beneath the fear and trepidation lies a beautiful treasure also known as your intuition.
Some describe it as a ‘gut feeling’, others describe it as a complete knowingness….either way we all have it…we are all born with it - yes even you! I promise you!
The world that you and I live in however is complicated, fast, constant, and loud!
We need to simplify, quiet, slow down and be still within our being to find the answers, to feel the calm and build our confidence as we embark on this magical mystery ride.
Believe it or not but you are in control even when you feel completely out of control.
You have so much power even if you feel completely powerless and it all starts with YOU.
Filter your thoughts.
Flood your mind and fill your soul until it’s overflowing with the truth.
This doesn’t happen overnight so be patient and consistent as you chip away at changing the script that’s circulating around your head - day by day until the good emotions overpower the bad.
Until the scary thoughts are taken over by joyful thoughts and until the idea of being responsible for a tiny human who is completely and utterly dependent on you fills you up with an enormous amount of happiness, love and confidence that no person on this earth can do this better than you!
I’ve added some links below to some great resources that I absolutely love including podcast, Socials and websites to help you as you embark on your journey but my final statement is this - your best resource besides yourself is your care provider.
After the dust has settled and it’s starting to sink in that you will one day relatively soon be a parent start thinking about who you want in your corner.
And pleeeeeease……Don’t just settle.
The best recommendation you can get is word of mouth so talk to your friends, neighbours and family.
Ask lots of questions and take the time to ‘interview’ as many birth workers as you like until you find your fit.
There is no right or wrong decision as long as YOU have made the decision after exploring all
options available to you.
This my friends is what we call in the biz as ‘informed decision making’.
A term you will become very familiar with and the first of many important decisions you will have to make going forward.
In regards to your health care provider depending on your location you likely have a few different options and I will cover these in the very near future.
For now just breathe, inhale, exhale and relax.
It will all be worth it.