My Story

I’m Nicki Nickole

👩🏾‍💻 Founder of The God Girl Brand, L.L.C.

🎙 Host of The God Girl Brand Podcast

✝️ 👩🏾‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏾 Christian Relationship Coach

I help single women fall in love with God + self so that they can attract, develop, and sustain the healthy relationships they desire and deserve.

And…I’m quite PASSIONATE about it.

Why?

I used to be the woman that needed relationship coaching. I had MAJOR abandonment and daddy issues, and not an ounce of “self” anything - not self-love, not self-confidence, not self-worth…nothing.

For years I found myself in a seemingly endless cycle of toxic, unhealthy relationships with men who:

* lied to me
* cheated on me
* used me
* took my kindness for weakness
* manipulated me
* abused me verbally, and emotionally
* disappeared on/abandoned me
* I thought I could change

I held on to those relationships as long as I could and as tight as I could, fearful that it was my last chance at love and that I’d end up alone forever if I didn’t. When they ended (and they always did), I’d reluctantly let go, only to soon find another man I’d begin repeating the cycle with. I jumped from relationship to relationship, hoping that eventually the men would change.

Then one day, after my last breakup, my heart finally gave way to all the cracks and just…broke. I cried out to God, “Why? Why won’t You let a man love me the way I see them love other women…the way I want to be loved…the way I DESERVE to be loved?”

And the craziest thing happened. God answered me…and the truth of His words both wounded and healed me at the same time.

“Nicki,” He said, “How can you have healthy relationships with others when you don’t have a healthy relationship with the Father of relationships? How can you have healthy relationships with others when you don’t have a healthy relationship with yourself? YOU don’t even love yourself the way you want to be loved. YOU don’t even believe you deserve love. Your spirit exudes this lack of self-love and self-worth, and you attract men who treat you accordingly.”

At that moment I realized the men weren’t the problem. I was.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying those men weren’t at some fault and didn’t need to make changes within themselves; they were and they did, but I couldn’t control whether or not they realized those faults and made those changes. I could only realize MY faults and make changes within MYSELF.

So I did just that. For almost two years I took a break from dating men and took time to date God and myself.

It was the second best decision I’ve ever made (the first was accepting Christ).

Now I’m in love with God, in love with myself, and happily dating again…this time with peace, purpose, and a new perspective.

My beautiful friend, if you’re reading these words right now, I don’t believe it’s by chance.

You have had the same painful experiences in relationships, cried out to God in the same heartbroken way, been given the same gut-wrenching but truthful answer, and come to the same freeing realization…YOU have to change for your relationships to change.

Trust me, if anyone understands what you’re going through, I do.

Let me support you in taking a leap of faith to transform your life. God is faithful. What He did for me, He will do for you.

God loves you! I love you!

Love and Light ♥️🕯,

Nicki Nickole