about —
Bear (he/him) & Fifi (all pronouns) are coaches, educators, and event producers.
They share practices that apply somatic tools and Tantric perspectives for deeper, more fulfilling intimate relationships. They curate safer spaces for people to engage mindfully with consent and embodied play. Their mission is to eradicate oppressive social binaries, address the personal barriers that limit human connection, and offer ways of relating that center collective care.
Bear —
A Black queer man of trans experience, born, raised and currently living in Brooklyn, NY.
Before teaching adults, Bear taught poetry to youth in NYC public schools. He began his career as a coach and case manager in 2018, and has since serviced people of all abilities, backgrounds, and circumstances.
During his time in a private residential treatment facility for adults with mental diagnoses and substance abuse disorders, he practiced crisis intervention, de-escalation tactics, and harm reduction protocols. He then managed cases at Callen Lorde community health clinic and trained in public health policy, gender affirming care, and safer sex. He also distributed housing and medical resources to NYC’s most vulnerable populations.
Bear co-founded Bear & Fifi Coaching in November 2021 with his partner, and became an Urban Tantra certified somatic practitioner in November 2022. He authors all Bear & Fifi Coaching theory and curriculum, including the creation of accessibility conscious tools and exercises to support emotional/nervous system regulation, non-violent communication, vulnerability + connection, and erotic embodiment.
Individually, Bear works with men and masc people of all experiences, members of the TGNC community and survivors of complex relational trauma and abuse.
Fifi —
A first-generation queer, non-binary Puerto Rican born, raised, and living in New York.
Fifi is a certified emotional embodiment practitioner specializing in eroticism and non-traditional relationships. Their lens is informed by their 17 years of practicing and studying meditation and earth-honoring traditions. Within more recent years, they’ve chosen to focus on Tantra, yogas, and the neuroscience of mindfulness.
As a Tantric practitioner, they coach people, particularly those socialized as women, seeking better relationships, deeper intimacy, and more authenticity and connection in their lives. Specifically in the arena of intimacy coaching, they specialize in: Tantric ritual, queer eroticism, polyamory and non-monogamy, and conscious decoupling. Fifi is an advocate of pleasure for wellness and hopes to see wider use of sensuality as a therapeutic tool, especially for people with marginalized identities and disabilities.
Fifi also leads non-profit organizations that serve The Bronx and Harlem communities through fellowships and arts education programs.
BEARXFIFI on YouTube
SubscribeCandid conversations between Bear & Fifi about gender + $3xual!ty, intimacy dynamics, and their personal lives. Bear & Fifi are a Queer/Trans, Black & Puerto-Rican, polyamorous couple who work and live together in New York City.