About —
Bear (he/him) & Fifi (they/ella) are coaches, educators, and event producers.
They share practices and perspectives for deeper, more fulfilling intimate relationships. They curate safer spaces for people to engage mindfully with consent and embodied play. Their mission is to challenge oppressive social binaries, address the personal barriers that limit human connection, and offer ways of relating that center collective care.
Bear —
A Black queer man of trans experience, born, raised and currently living in Brooklyn, NY.
(2 yrs/full-time) Coach & Case Manager at private half-way house Avenues NYC; (1 yr/full-time) Case Manager at Callen Lorde community health clinic with completed trainings in public health policy, gender affirming care, and safer sex; completed Urban Tantra Professional Training Program in 2023.
SUNY Purchase - Sociology
Bear authors all Bear & Fifi Coaching theory and curriculum, including the creation of accessibility conscious tools and exercises to support emotional/nervous system regulation, non-violent communication, vulnerability + connection, and erotic embodiment. Individually, Bear works with men and masc people of all experiences, members of the TGNC community and survivors of complex relational trauma and abuse.
Fifi (they/ella) —
A queer Puerto Rican femme born, raised, and living in New York.
(18 yrs) meditation mentor and student of world religions; (13 yrs) attending and facilitating peer support groups; Completed courses by the school of Ancestral Medicine: Animist Psychology, Foundations of Ritual; Completed Urban Tantra Professional Training Program in 2023.
CUNY City College - Architecture
As a Tantric practitioner, they coach people, particularly those socialized as women, seeking better relationships, deeper intimacy, and more authenticity and connection in their lives. Specifically in the arena of intimacy coaching, they specialize in: Tantric ritual, queer eroticism, polyamory and non-monogamy, and conscious decoupling. Fifi is an advocate of pleasure for wellness and hopes to see wider use of sensuality as a therapeutic tool, especially for people with marginalized identities and different abilities.
BEARXFIFI on YouTube
SubscribeCandid conversations between Bear & Fifi about gender + $3xual!ty, intimacy dynamics, and their personal lives. Bear & Fifi are a Queer/Trans, Black & Puerto-Rican, polyamorous couple who work and live together in New York City.