Got shot by Cupid: A mother's Love

This valentines I got shot by Cupid twice.Most Valentine’s Day I normally focus more on my partner but this year it’s all about the other guy who stole my heart.This boy has drastically shifted my perspective on life and what real love feels like,here’s a few things I have recently learnt about love since he has been in my life : Love is for everyone. This is probably the most important thing that he has thought me, I went from not feeling worthy to love to someone who’s heart Is bursting with love .Love belongs to everyone, and everyone deserves love. Not only that, everyone deserves to be loved the way that they prefer to be loved. Secondly he showed me that I must Save my energy for the good stuff. This world wants us to focus a lot of our energy and attention on knowing or improving the way that others feel about us. As hard and frustrating as this can feel sometimes, the secret to all of this is that we have zero control over whether or not people love us. Thirdly,Loving others matters. I said before that it is nearly impossible to change the way that people feel about you. That being said, the one thing that he has showed me to do is to have control over is the way I treat others.

I truly love & appreciate him for showing me what my best self looks like when I’m in love ,Thank you Sekani Jones .

Got shot by Cupid: Gratitude

Shot by Cupid is an understatement for what I feel towards this man .He helped me bring forward the love that I craved for many years and I’m truly grateful,because of him I now understand that Inorder to get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with. this valentine we plan on devoting the day to each other by attempting relationship team building activities and also address the obstacles we have crossed over for the last couple of years.

Got shot by Cupid: Healing and Loving

Celebrating Myself and Him.

This Valentine’s Day I have decided to love myself. Yes I am in a relationship of three years now going on four, but throughout my relationship I have been learning and growing as an individual. My mental health has taken a toll on my relationship, I am needy, I am aggressive, I am sad. Although my partner is amazing and is supportive of my struggles he too has struggles in understanding my hardships. Mental health is new to him given the fact that he grew up in the Caribbean and raised by African parents. Men do not express their feelings in these cultures and the stigma regarding mental health is not the best.

My partner has been loving, patient, and everything I need during these times. He’s my shoulder to cry on, my punching bag, my best friend, my listening ear. But that is not fair. He deserves the girl he met 4 four years ago. The girl who was care free, the girl who was always smiling, the girl who was never jealous, the girl who trusted him. He is in a relationship with my anxiety and not me. My anxiety and depression has taken over my body and that girl is struggling to breath due to the weight that is on her chest. Many times she has tried to take a breath and several times the air has escaped her.

My prescribed medication is helping as well as my constant therapy sessions. I have made it my goal to better myself not only for him but more importantly for me. To love myself more and to be patient with myself. I am trying and consciously working everyday to extend that love to him. I am trying to be the independent woman I once was before. I am trying to allow him to breath and be his own man. I am trying to shower him with love the way he had always done for me. I am trying to give him the peace he has requested. I am trying to give him the girl he met four years ago back. Although I have grown and that girl is long gone, apart of her still remains, and the searching has begun. She is slowly surfacing again and I await the day she’s able to fight through the devil that is holding her hostage.

This Valentine’s Day and everyday remember to love others but more importantly remember to be gentle and love yourself more. Sending love to those who are struggling with themselves internally. Remember you are not alone and there are resources waiting for you. I love you all.

Got shot by Cupid: Love always

Sharing & celebrating with family.
Loving all around
I have become more conscious of others and their feelings over mines. Selflessness is important. Giving another person a chance to explain and hear their story made me stop and think before judging. Everyone has some issue they're struggling with and tend to cover it with an attitude that comes across as negative.
Take time to listen not just hear what your partner/family/friend is saying and not saying.
Share the love. Give and you would receive. Love always 😍💕

Got shot by Cupid: Healing

A Toxic Love Story

This is the story of how I fell in love with a libra.

I was in form four in secondary school and that’s when I started seeing this new girl in school then one of my friends who claimed to be dating her said she transferred from another school. I don’t know why but she instantly caught my eye, to me she was the most beautiful person in the entire school but back then I was mr shy guy so I didn’t say anything.

Fast forward a few years after we finished school and everything around the time “msn messenger” was popping and I got her email from one of those chain emails. Didn’t know it was her at first but as time went by we got closer and closer and eventually started dating. An entire year passed before we went out in person but we did and it was as amazing as I always thought it would be.

Fast forward some months we stopped talking because she was upset that I had to travel not knowing she was traveling too. While she was off island we started talking again and she dropped a bomb on me saying that she was pregnant. We stopped talking again until she got back on the island but I was already dating someone else where she got back. We continued speaking until me and the person broke up which wasn’t my fault. We were good like really good people even thought she was pregnant for me that lasted until her child was born, she flipped out for God alone knows what and stopped talking to me for a few years.

Fast Forward again, about a month before or so before her birthday she came back in my inbox again apologising for everything she did and saying that I don’t deserve to be treated like that and she don’t deserve someone like me. Now me being madly in love with her after all that she did I instantly felt all my feelings for her come rushing back not knowing that she’s in a relationship. For the next 3-4 years we were on and off again while she was in that relationship then boom another bomb she’s pregnant again but this time it was different she and the father was together so we never really linked up we just slowly drifted apart.

Fast forward again, we started talking again she had her second child but this time she and the father just broke up. I fell back in that toxic place again thinking this time was gonna be different but I was sadly mistaken. Everything was going good until she just magically changed AGAIN this time I took the hint and decided enough is enough and took it upon myself to just blank her from my life completely. I’m currently single and going through my healing process.

-Mr. Anonymous-

Got shot by Cupid: Valentine's day can be for friends too

To be very honest, I would not be doing anything special today. I do have a boyfriend; however, I don't think he is into Valentine's day as much as I am, which sucks because I never experienced Valentine's day with a significant other.
On the bright side, I will be showing love to my best friend because she always show extra love to me on this special day. One revelation I noticed since I chose love is not every man shows love the way you would want him to. Everyone express emotions differently. Thus, it is imperative to learn your partner's love language.

Got shot by Cupid: Choosing love

I’m just trying to stay alive
Gonna love myself
It don’t always love you back
Don’t just say you love, live the love you feel so that it is felt whenever you’re around
Care for your love and it will care for you

Got shot by Cupid: Real love and advice

Throughout my late teenage life, Valentine's day has been a day I've really celebrated. Simply because I didn't quite understood its significance. However, as I've grown older, I researched and perhaps, understand its meaning a bit more. Nevertheless, this Valentine's Day, I am showing love - without any tangible / materialistic commodity - to myself and to my partner. And I bet your next question is, "well how?" On our regular dinner datenight on Friday, at our favourite spot 61 west, we sat and had one of the most mind-blowing conversations ever, since the start of our relationship. Initially, we were planning on going to Barbados for the Valentine's weekend, to just rest and recuperate from all of the running around and school work we've been engaged with. But with the new protocols in place, and deadlines around our necks (him being a phD student, and me finishing up my undergrad) now was not the right time. So, he decided we should change the routine a bit for this Valentine's. In that, we should wake early today (which we slightly failed lol); he would make breakfast (as if he doesn't always do lol); and for the rest of the day, we should accomplish three school deadlines in full; and after we have shown that 'love' and 'commitment' to ourselves, we would make dinner at home, sip on my favourite De Toren The Black Lion Shiraz, red wine, and come up with some vision for our the next few months as a couple. The latter was quite a shock, as he has never been that way before. But whoever this is now, I am loving him more! Because of this, it is safe to say that this valentine's I am loving both myself and my babes, and moreso my siblings (as at some point today, we will be doing a game call and celebrating our mother's recovery to walking). One of my biggest revelation, is me being able to truly let go and forgive, and trust - - trust me, it was hard for me. But I knew what I wanted, I took the time to evaluate, and further introspect, there were a lot of issues between myself and babe, that made me feel to walk away, or kill him (don't quote me on this lol) but at the end of the day, we came to a lot of conclusions and decided to put in the work to save what we want, and we were able to understand, communicate, and compromise, for the sake of our oneness. It wasn't that easy to confront our demons, and we have not yet confronted all of them, but it is a work in progress and we are dedicated to the taks at hand. If deep down you believe whatever you have is worth saving, put in the work, and trust the process. If you need to love yourself more first, put in the work, introspect, and write down everything that you feel. Take some time by yourself and write down all of your plans, dreams, aspirations, make your vision boards (trust me, its therapeutic), have friends who are high achievers like you, plan vision parties with them, read more; and most importantly, don't forget the bordeaux glass while you're at it!!! In essence, for the entirety of 2021 cupid will be shooting me.

Got shot by Cupid: Lovee

This Valentine's Day i woke up next to the love of my life. No greater feeling that knowing the person you sleep with
at night whole heartedly loves you maybe even more than you love yourself, his love for me has healed me in so much ways that he doesn't know and even if one day we separate (because nothing lasts forever) i will not leave with bitterness because i can say we both truly gave the best we can here (atleast we are trying to). There are alot of ups and downs ( this man TESTS me) but the good outweighs the bad.

To anyone looking for love, don't look because we tend to end up in the wrong hands, take time for yourself and heal and if you do find someone ensure that they are willing to walk that journey of healing with you, make sure they don't ever let you go to sleep mad and even if you do can still turn over and hold you, make sure that they love ALL of you and don't give them too much of yourself before They show you they are serious about you. I don't have all the answers because i am still healing from past trauma but with him i am in a better place than where i started.

So let me proudly say cupid shot me and hard too. Have a great Valentine's Day all. Spread love, Share love, Give love.

Got shot by Cupid: Love

When loves comes unexpectedly it comes with full force. You constantly question yourself whether this what you feeling is real or fake. There’s a constant tug of war with yourself. However, you then see the love for what it really is and you begin to appreciate it. I never expected love to come and feel this way by it sure did. Three years and going and everyday it grows. We have our ups and downs as it’s quite normal. My biggest supporter, my best friend , my comedian and everything in between. In relationships you have to completely open and honest and you’ll see all the joy and happiness it brings. You’ll appreciate it for what it is and it’ll be nothing but love. My partner is my best friend and that’s the best best friend I’ve ever had.
Love Chelly

A lover's account

You always hear the positive parts of relationships. However, it indeed takes conscious effort, even when you are deeply in love with each other. I have to say that our biggest struggle was that of understanding what the other needs in order to get over anger. I prefer that he sticks to my side and talk to me when I'm upset. On-the-other-hand, he prefers the opposite; which is for me to give him time to deal with his anger. Often time I gave him what I really wanted, and he gave me what he really wanted. Thankfully, we've come to understand this and are both making an effort to do what the other desires. The key is to always listen to your partner and their desires and communication will become easier. - R. Springle

A lover's struggle

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Something that I love and that annoys me all in one is the fact that he tries to fix all my problems once I tell him about them.
Sometimes it's cute and very needed help because I'm stuck and don't know what to do next or where to turn so I vent to him and he takes it upon himself with me asking to try and fix it.
Bit sometimes again it's annoying. The reason I vent to him in not because I want him to do something it's because his my person and sometime I just need a listening ear and I'm not exactly looking for someone to take it upon themselves to make my problems go bye bye
Without me asking*
But*
He's*
Lol
And when I complain for about him doing something without my asking or turn down my help he seems hurt or makes me feel like ungrateful 🙄😒 with his bitch ass self.

Strength in Pain

I think I’m still in the process of learning to love myself but that sure doesn’t affect my ability to love another person, and I must say I have been experiencing this new type of love that just brings me PEACE, in past relationships it was always about arguing and proving a point and weird enough, to me, I thought that this was normal, I actually loved the arguing and the fighting because I believed that if you argue with me it means you care, but then soon after these petty arguments I loved so much became emotional abuse, to the point where I would get blocked for hours, my calls would get rejected, and right or wrong I still ended up apologizing. Did I leave? NOPE, well not after three years had past but even though I knew it was wrong even when it hurt even when I knew I deserved better I stuck around, for the sake of LOVE? Or what people gonna say and to make matters worst, my family adored him so to me I was stuck. I would listen to my friends stories and think to myself well my relationship ain’t that bad, I have it better than y’all, lol there I was comparing my toxic relationship to another. In the end I learned a lot, I’m no expert but after being in a situation like that for three years you tend to take something away from it. -Anonymous-

Growth

It all started 10 years ago. I ran into this guys who stole my heart, we’ve been up and down. After 4years of being together I gave birth to a bouncing baby boy , three years after we then got married which was the worse mistake I made, it went downhill from there and wanting to be the supportive spouse I stood around and stuck his shit for 3 1/2 years, until one night I said to myself, “you deserve BETTER, why are you accepting this kind of treatment”. I then called it quit & told him the same night that I no longer wish to be apart of this relationship, not expecting it he was speechless. We then separated & came to the understanding that things can’t work between us & we would be better of as friends.And tbh I don’t regret making such decision, we as women should know our worth and know when to leave unhealthy relationships and (DON’T IGNORE THOSE RED FLAGS). ~ A

The process of building a foundation

From my current relationship what I have learnt is that a good and healthy relationship takes WORKK.
Workk to understand the other person and their needs and wants, especially if they don't always line up with yours.
Workk to communicate effectively so that both parties feel heard and understood.
Workk to bare who you are to someone and feel comfortable with trusting someone with vulnerable parts of you.
Workk to let what you are unhappy with be heard, not in an argumentative /accusing way, but in a way that it helps to build you as an individual and as a couple.
Workk to learn that it is okay that your partner is not perfect, because neither are you.
Workk to be patient enough to see your partner grow & change those imperfections, so that you all can work better together.
Workk to admit that you are wrong and that there are stuff that you as a person need to change.
Workk to understand that every relationship is different, and that what may be the mainstream idea of certain aspects of a relationship just may not work for you& your partner. Gotta find your niche.
&iss Reeaall Workk to put all these things
together.
But I have also learnt that in doing all those things, and putting in all that work, some of which may come much easier than others, the quality of relationship that you would have at the end of it is more than worth the all the energy that you put in. It is a learning and growing experience that cultivates love at the end of the day ❤️

A lover's Appreciation

It’s quite astonishing that we are able to obtain knowledge on various subjects such as riding a bicycle,functioning of a device, how to kiss even why airplanes actually have one wing(allegedly). However, similar to raising a child with love there is still so much undiscovered truths, no manual(which I love using).Strangely ,I am not flustered or out of depth in the absence of this manual you make me embrace each unknowning step. Having you beside me on this journey gives me the extra motivation to push through the tough days and embrace them like lovely sunny days on the beach with you cuddling me. Sometimes we allow our greed and lust to get the better of us thus makes us oblivious to the ones that’s truly by our side for instant gratification. I know definitely as my mother says my one in the hand is worth ten in the wild.
-M.Jones

A Lover's Open-mindedness

One thing that I can certainly say contributed to a low in my relationship was ineffective communication. He would talk too little, I would talk too much, and I always felt like we were never on the same page. And then I would overthink about what that means. Is it just that he isn't comfortable enough with me? Doesn't trust me enough? Doesn't want to talk to me? It would drive me crazy. Especially when he was dealing with something and I had no clue what it was or how to deal with it. -Chica(1)
And things were always misinterpreted on both ends because one might assume about the other one instead of just asking a question or simply letting the person know how they feel. -Chica( part 2)
I have learnt however that it is important to try to understand something from the partners perspective, but even more importantly, you need to be open and be willing to talk. Exchange how it is that you feel or why you feel that way. Share with them your perspective on things. Don't be afraid to ask a question to clarify something. As opposed to assuming what they meant by what they did or said. Or that they can know what is going on in your head, don't take that for granted at all.-Chica(3)
It's the only way to stay on the same page and move forward together in the same direction. And it has certainly helped us alottt.
-Chica(4)

A Lover's Fairytale

My husband and I are more than best friends. We are a single soul. We have such a wonderful understanding of our love that we Balance life and its issues really well. We are better people together and We have taken time to learn each other so much that we have mutual respect for each other. Now Don't Get me wrong we are still figuring our way around each other but we are free to be who we are within our union because we commit to unconditional love towards each other.
My Husband celebrates my weird and I do his. We treat each other well. We think of each other and support each other. The reason we are so grounded is that we put God at the head of our union. We seek him personally and together. The most intimate experience you can ever have with someone is to be able to hold their hands and cry out to God together.
I have never felt insecure or had to question my husband's loyalty. I trust him and he trusts me. If we have a disagreement we are able to have a conversation about it calmly. We promised to be a safe place for each other. And even though we have been together forn3 years married 1 year a half. I still feel like he hasn't stopped pursuing me. I feel like the luckiest woman in the world and he still causes my heart to skip beats when he looks at me and smiles.❤

Recognition

There's a saying, " your taste in men is a reflection of how you see yourself!" I am currently single because I realize I always lower my standards for men who never really cared about my well-being. Also, it was easy to manipulate because I have low self-esteem and self-worth. I healed by taking better care of myself, learning to love each and every flaw I possess and heighten my happiness. So when a man comes to me now, he has to meet my standards.

Acceptance

My partner and I have been together for 3 yrs and going now. The way that our relationship started was kind of unexpected. I was going through a tough time at the moment is a young single mom with many flaws and low self-esteem. However, having clearly seen my many flaws he still somehow saw my flaws in a positive light. That's one of the things that I love most about him. I have recently come to realize that because I have now started to see myself in that positive light that I never confronted those flaws, broken parts and it was beginning to be a problem. Little things started to trigger old feelings from the past and I began lashing out at him. This is just to say that in a relationship you need to be open with your partner, communicate the little things that may upset you because later on, it can be a much bigger problem. There are many highs and lows in a relationship but once there is effective communication and determination from both partners you can survive any situation together.  

~J.

Mango smoothie

If you are on a diet and you're looking for a quick, on the go, two steps process then you've come to the right blog.

This mango smoothie was a creative way of incorporating an available fruit and my current diet/lifestyle.

Ingredients:
Mango (diced or chopped)
Ice (cubed or crushed)
Sugar or honey (optional)
Water or orange juice

Place all ingredients in a blender and pulse; remove when ingredients are dissolved and are mixed completely. The orange juice does a great job at extracting the juices from the mango. Serve.

More recipes will posted. Join in with me on my weightloss journey. I've attempted this journey for nymerousous 5imes but my lack of consistency always result in nothingness.

📸: @mo_unique (first person I introduced to this refreshing drink)

Turnovers anyone?

The dish pictured is known as turnover in Grenada, not sure for other places. However, in Trinidad it is called Flakey Coconut Rolly and in Guyana, Guyanese Salara. This is a sweet dessert that is bursting with flavors as the filling is enticed with spices.

How can you, like me, achieve such perfection? (The turnover pictured here is a before picture)

Read below

Dough making:
This is a pretty simple step, I tried to ensure the ingredients were easily accessible and convenient.

Tools:
Bowl
Fork
Rolling pin
Measuring equipment

Ingredients:
Flour
Salted Butter
Ice water

Process:
- Gather all your ingredients for your dough.
- measure the flour and butter using the measuring equipment you assembled.
-Equal parts of butter and flour should be used. Therefore, if you use 5C of flour then use 1.25 lbs of butter
-use the fork to mix in butter with flour.
-when the mixture starts resembling moist breadcrumbs, it is time to add in the water.
-Add ice water to the mix. (Ice water keeps the butter solid which avoids the dough from colapsing)
-Use your fingertips to knead and avoid using the palm of your hands. (Your palms might produce heat that can melt the butter)
- knead into a dough. If the mixture is runny, add flour and vice versa.
- Use cling wrap or wax paper to wrap the dough.
- Refrigerate dough. (You can leave it in the fridge for as long as you choose, usually 15 minutes sets it perfectly. Or, you can place it there until your filling mixture is prepared).

Filing:

Tools:
-Saucepan
-wooden spoon

Ingredients:
-grated coconut
-cinnamon sticks
-nutmeg
-bay leaf
- cherry essence
-hot-water
- sugar

Process:
- Place saucepan on lit stove.
- Pour water, and spices.
- Allow this concoction to simmer.
- Add essence.
- Stir mixture occasionally
- Allow a syrup like consistency for the filling ( there's a syrup recipe on a previous post).
- Add coconut flakes.
- Keep stirring until the coconut flakes are fully coated.
- The mixture should be dewy .
(Usually, red food coloring is added to the mixture. I didn't have red, and blue/green seemed too off to use. So I went ahead and used cherry essence to give the red color. It is not as powerful as the food coloring, but it works.)

Now, leave the mixture to cool.

Preheat the oven right before removing the dough from the fridge.

After the mixture is cool, remove the dough from the fridge and get to kneading. Knead the dough just for a few seconds. Flour your countertop or wherever you roll dough. Flour your rolling pin. Place the dough on the countertop and start rolling. Roll away from yourself and turn dough accordingly. The completed rolled dough should be the same thickness throughout. Pour filling mixture all over one side of the dough. Spread evenly. After, roll dough in the shape of a log, ensure it is tightly tucked in. Coat with eggwash/ a sugar+water mixture.

Now there are two options.
1. Bake the turnover in the long log form you rolled it into

OR

2. Slice the log shape evenly. The slices should leave multilayered circles.

To bake:
Line baking pan with wax/grease proof paper. Lightly flour the paper. Place the log/ circles onto the paper in the pan. Place baking pan into the oven and let bake for 30 minutes. Adjust heat based on the intensity of your stove. I set my oven on 350°. Check on turnover, you are trying to achieve an amber brown, with properly cooked insides. Once this is achieved, remove dough from the oven and leave to cool on a cooling rack. (Once cool, if you baked it as a long then go ahead and cut to your preference. If baked as circles, go ahead and bite into one of your turnovers.)

You successfully baked a turnover!!!!

Fluffy Apple flavored Pancakes with apple syrup and chunks

Firstly let's talk making the batter



How did I achieve this? Read below (I must say I am very "CARIBBEAN" with my measurement. Pour until your ancestors tell you to stop loool!

Ingredients
1. Flour (You can use which ever you prefer)
2. Baking Powder
3. Salt
4. Sugar
5. Egg
6. Melted butter/ Oil/ Pam
7. Milk
8. Apple juice (if you dare)

Equipment/tools:
whisk
bowl
spoon
spatula
Frying pan

Process: (3 steps)
- Mix flour, baking powder, salt, and sugar in a bowl.
- Add the liquid ingredients to the mix and whisk into a batter. (Pay attention to the consistency of the batter, it should be "nappe" which means coat the back of the spoon).
- Heat frying pan (to your preferred degrees, I usually set mine to the lowest).
- Grease pan with butter/ oil or spray with Pam.
- Add a spoon of batter to the heated pan.
- Wait until the side is a golden brown color then flip pancake to the next side.
- Remove from pan and your first pancake is ready.

Secondly, the apple syrup.

Ingredients:
1 apple
1 Bay leaf
Pinch of nutmeg
1 cinnamon stick
2 tbsp sugar
water

Tools:
Sauce pan
Wooden spoon
Cutting board and knife

Process:
There are many ways to make a simple syrup. However, I dumped all the ingredients in the pan and watched as the process of reduction gave me the desired consistency.
- Place all the ingredients into the sauce pan
- Set on medium heat and be patient
- Remove once it becomes thick and sticky like a syrup. (Similar to molasses)





Finished product:
Golden brown fluffy apple pancakes with apple syrup



Things I should have done that you can do:
Add nutmeg to the batter
Puree half of the apple so you can get a thickkk syrup with chunks
Peel the apple.

Apple × Papaya Honey drizzled smoothie

Wait, what?! Ha. Indeed
I opted for something healthy to drink with the banana oatmeal pancakes.

Ingredients:
3/4 of AN Apple diced
A piece of papaya (locally called Pawpaw) diced
Honey
Ice cubes
Water

How to make:
-Add everything into the blender and pulse, pulse, pulse.
-Select a high speed and leave to blend.
-Remove from the blender and taste (if it is bland, add some honey, if not then you have just created your first of many smoothies).
-Use the 1/4 of the apple and slice as a garnish.
-Serve.

Product review

The pictures are on my ig account. Click the link at the bottom.

1st - Suave shampoo and conditioner
2nd and 3rd- results from shampoo
4th and 5th- results from conditioner
6th- Creme of Nature shampoo

Product review:
*I AM SHOCKED*

So I tried the Suave essentials shampoo at first after saturating my hair in water and boy oh boy!!!! First of all, this shampoo lathers so good and makes the wash process fun. However, that was not the highlight of using this product. This is the first time I've washed my hair and felt it being so clean after. My scalp was screaming thank you for a much needed cleanse. My hair strands felt rich and strong and I am so shook. Now onto the conditioner, at first I was unimpressed because it took several squeezes to get the right amount of slippage but when I got it...damnnnn. Again, shoooooook. It defined my curls so well. Hair felt like velvet and the smell. The frigging smell...sheesh. Unbelievable. Another first was the softness of my hair even after it was dried. Incredible. Usually, creme of nature shampoo or vo5 is my go to. But today I tried this and I am astonished at this product. It costed $7 (I think) in a local shop. Really worth the try. The creme of nature shampoo is a moisturizing shampoo that works wonders and gives DEFINITION. However the conditioner is dull and weakens the combo effect.
Try the suave essentials and let me know how your hair feels. Going to try a different flavor to see if that has a part to play with the remarkable results.